My Dad is now home but went missing tonight after getting confused & lost after a row with his wife.
The row was about their home which my Dad believes belongs to an old friend. He is convinced they will be thrown out of their home soon as the friend now wants their place back. This is not true as they live in rented accommodation through a housing association. His wife said no no this flat is ours but my Dad would not have it. She also wants to change some furniture but my Dad says they can't because the furniture belongs to the flat owner not them so they can't sell it!
As my Dad gets so agitated and in this instance, the row resulted in him walking out, I think that is is better to keep Dad calm. WHilst I know it is difficult, I think it would be easier to go along with what Dad says. Reassure him that although the flat does belong to this friend, this friend has agreed to let them stay and change furniture if they wish, or something like this. If Dad firmly believes this, trying to tell him otherwise will only frustrate him. Through no fault of his own, Dad can't be reasoned with.
His wife has now told me in no uncertain terms that I am not to 'go along' with things Dad believes and that I must correct him. She wants him to be told the truth always. Whilst in everyday life, I am the most honest person, with Dad I don't feel it's as cut and dry as truth and lies. My priority is keeping Dad calm and as happy and safe as possible. As long as it doesn't hurt anyone, why should I constantly correct him frustrating him further?
ANyone else had experiences like this and what was the outcome?
The row was about their home which my Dad believes belongs to an old friend. He is convinced they will be thrown out of their home soon as the friend now wants their place back. This is not true as they live in rented accommodation through a housing association. His wife said no no this flat is ours but my Dad would not have it. She also wants to change some furniture but my Dad says they can't because the furniture belongs to the flat owner not them so they can't sell it!
As my Dad gets so agitated and in this instance, the row resulted in him walking out, I think that is is better to keep Dad calm. WHilst I know it is difficult, I think it would be easier to go along with what Dad says. Reassure him that although the flat does belong to this friend, this friend has agreed to let them stay and change furniture if they wish, or something like this. If Dad firmly believes this, trying to tell him otherwise will only frustrate him. Through no fault of his own, Dad can't be reasoned with.
His wife has now told me in no uncertain terms that I am not to 'go along' with things Dad believes and that I must correct him. She wants him to be told the truth always. Whilst in everyday life, I am the most honest person, with Dad I don't feel it's as cut and dry as truth and lies. My priority is keeping Dad calm and as happy and safe as possible. As long as it doesn't hurt anyone, why should I constantly correct him frustrating him further?
ANyone else had experiences like this and what was the outcome?