I have posted before about my fil who is registered blind and has alzheimers. He fell and broke his hip in October and has been in a care home since November. He is self funded but he constantly gone on about returning to his flat and looking after himself. We have tried to get him to settle at the home but the conversation revolves around going home. We asked social services to assess his mental capacity as we do not think he has the capacity to understand that he is unable to live on his own safely and needs 24 hour looking after and have been waiting for them to come to a decision. He has had a 3rd visit from the social worker who said she was bringing the dementia nurse with her but she didn't. She has sent an email this evening to say he has the capacity to make a change to his accommodation and that she wants to set up a meeting. My husband has poa for his health when he eventually is deemed not to have capacity but the care home manager has told us that fil needs 24 hour as he cannot go to the loo without help, cannot walk without falling over and fil completely disputes there is anything wrong with him at all, he doesn't even believe that he broke his hip. How can he return to his flat when he can't manage these things but is also in complete denial that there is anything medical wrong with him. Do we have any say in where he wants to live if we know he is going end up back in hospital almost immediately he is let out. He kept telling us how well he can walk again now and then the following morning the home call to say he has had another fall. When he broke his hip he wasn't wearing his alarm pendant as he had forgotten to put it on. How many times does he have to end up falling until we are taken notice of? We just want him in the safest place, for him to be looked after and to know that there is always someone to help him. He admitted to the care manager that he doesn't know how to go to the toilet, he can't get any food or drinks for himself and he also previously told the social worker he understood he needed 24 hour care but now it seems that she isn't looking at any of this. Surely the care home are in a better position to understand his mental capacity. Even the dementia nurse who saw him recently said he had declined a lot since she last saw him. We only want what is the best outcome that will keep him safe. What do we do, if anything? The other day he the home said he wanted to talk to us. He came on the phone saying he was going home. When we said we had the keys safely with us he said he would go and lay in the road by his flat then, is that deemed as having mental capacity? I am in poor health myself due to chronic pain from a back injury and stress of all of this is awful.