Hi has anyone any experience of drawing up a plan for end of life care for their relative? I don't know what to call it but I'm guessing that this is what is happening to my mum. my mum has had a rapid decline after a 3 month stay in hospital and a bad bout of shingles. She is now in a nursing home and sleeping a lot and not eating much. She is in bed most of the time now. I spoke to her gp who has a specialism in the elderly and dementia and she told me how shocked she was to see my mum since she's come out of hospita.
We talked about having do not resuscitate on her notes as the hospital had asked me to agree to this and I wanted to know if it had been carried over on her medical notes (not!)
I asked if I could have a clause about no intrusive medical intervention included on her notes and the doctor said she welcomed this approach of talking about it and has asked me to meet with her to draw a plan of what we as a family feel is in the best interests for my mum.
it's quite a big responsibility and something of a minefield and I'm trying to do the best for my mum who can no longer tell me or anyone else what she wants and doesn't want
Can anyone give advice and things to consider eg if she got pneumonia would I want her to be given antibiotics or if she's in pain what sort of treatment would she need etc so I can be prepared for our meeting. thanks in advance
We talked about having do not resuscitate on her notes as the hospital had asked me to agree to this and I wanted to know if it had been carried over on her medical notes (not!)
I asked if I could have a clause about no intrusive medical intervention included on her notes and the doctor said she welcomed this approach of talking about it and has asked me to meet with her to draw a plan of what we as a family feel is in the best interests for my mum.
it's quite a big responsibility and something of a minefield and I'm trying to do the best for my mum who can no longer tell me or anyone else what she wants and doesn't want
Can anyone give advice and things to consider eg if she got pneumonia would I want her to be given antibiotics or if she's in pain what sort of treatment would she need etc so I can be prepared for our meeting. thanks in advance