Hi,
My Dad died 4 weeks ago and in the hours after his death she was taken into a Care Home. This has meant that she has not seen her family since before he died - I've not seen her since January. The only people she has been in contact with have been the care home staff.
One of the members of staff advised me to be honest with Mum if she asked about Dad and to tell her that Dad had died. The care home are finally allowing visitors and I can see Mum this weekend for 15 minutes. She may not ask about Dad. But if she does I don't feel comfortable lying to her.
However I only have 15 minutes, I can't offer her any comfort as we won't be able to hug. She is mild to moderate according to her care needs assessment but this still means that she will forget what I've said afterwards but if she's upset that's going to stay with her. I suspect you're going to tell me to lie. I can't shake the feeling that this is wrong and that I'm patronising her.
B.
My Dad died 4 weeks ago and in the hours after his death she was taken into a Care Home. This has meant that she has not seen her family since before he died - I've not seen her since January. The only people she has been in contact with have been the care home staff.
One of the members of staff advised me to be honest with Mum if she asked about Dad and to tell her that Dad had died. The care home are finally allowing visitors and I can see Mum this weekend for 15 minutes. She may not ask about Dad. But if she does I don't feel comfortable lying to her.
However I only have 15 minutes, I can't offer her any comfort as we won't be able to hug. She is mild to moderate according to her care needs assessment but this still means that she will forget what I've said afterwards but if she's upset that's going to stay with her. I suspect you're going to tell me to lie. I can't shake the feeling that this is wrong and that I'm patronising her.
B.