I called dads CH after lunch today and was told dad was eating well and having a good day apparently eating soup, main and pudding and had surprised them with his appetite. Dad was talking to someone in the dining room so I said I didn't want to disturb him as thought nice that he was possibly starting to engage with others. I said if it was OK then I would call later in the day and was told would be fine. I took a wreath to cemetery as was mum's birthday today so time I got back to calling CH was around 4.45pm. The nurse had a bit of a job finding dad saying he had been wandering around but eventually found him. I was pretty shocked when speaking with dad in fact at one point even wondered if it was dad but did recognise odd bits he said. Dad was very disorientated mumbling saying he would see me at 7.30pm to which I just kinda said yes ok dad. I asked dad if he could pass the phone to the lady but seems no one was around but trying to have any sort of conversation with dad was near impossible and one point he started making a really strange noise down the phone. In the end I felt I just had to disconnect the call as dad was unable to do anything his end and couldn't pass the phone to anyone. I called the CH back a few minutes later and explained how dad was and asked if dad had been given any different medication. The nurse said no dad was only having antibiotics prescribed for the UTI and said he had been in the dining room so was probably tired I said I had never heard dad sound so bad and told her I did wonder if was dad but she confirmed dad is the only one with that name. I'm feeling pretty shocked is this what going into the CH has done to him? if so he has gone downhill faster than I expected.
I haven't spoken with sister regarding the call as she put the phone down on me again on Thursday and there has been no contact between us since. I am annoyed and upset as I had relayed and updated my sister on all information and calls to CH and dad since he went in but I have no idea what dad was like yesterday as she couldn't be bothered to inform me despite my sending a polite text to ask how dad was. In order to not put extra work on for carers/nurses in CH when they are no doubt very busy we had agreed we would each take turns to call them and also try and speak to dad every other day each as well. I give up with sister I have a visit to see dad on December 14th she can make whatever arrangements she can herself. Lady from ASC is visiting dad on Tuesday as delayed another visit last week due to dads UTI.
I haven't spoken with sister regarding the call as she put the phone down on me again on Thursday and there has been no contact between us since. I am annoyed and upset as I had relayed and updated my sister on all information and calls to CH and dad since he went in but I have no idea what dad was like yesterday as she couldn't be bothered to inform me despite my sending a polite text to ask how dad was. In order to not put extra work on for carers/nurses in CH when they are no doubt very busy we had agreed we would each take turns to call them and also try and speak to dad every other day each as well. I give up with sister I have a visit to see dad on December 14th she can make whatever arrangements she can herself. Lady from ASC is visiting dad on Tuesday as delayed another visit last week due to dads UTI.
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