I had to get an emergency assessment for 84 FIL who's caring for MIL aged 84 with quite advanced dementia. This assessment was required as they have had no medical checks and no check ups etc for over 5yrs. He's basically struggled along all this time anyway mam was becoming quite agressive with him throwing stuff etc screaming shouting at him, she totally refuses to change her clothes or be washed and hasn't been washed or bathed properly in months, the lady came from Social services yesterday and knocked at the door we welcomed her in and sat her down in front room with myself my husband, my MIL FIL our niece,who's been trying to help them ,the lady said who she was and introduced herself in a whisper we could barely hear let alone 84 years Olds with hearing problems anyway then she just sat there looking dumbstruck and didn't utter a word, I had to speak out and explain to them why she was here, she didn't try and make any conversation with mam ,she didn't ask any questions until I prompted her, I feel she didn't understand the problems we were asking for help with and although after I kept asking her questions and she fumbled around stuttering some answers and eventually I suggested she look at the bathroom and how the wheelchair won't fit through the door she did take note of that, she didn't raise any questions about the aggression concerns, we have , basically I felt like I'd done the assessment for her, I feel totally letdown after her visit and feel I shouldn't have had to keep pushing her to ask MIL and FIL what
Their needs are ,I could tell she was wanting to rush off but I kept on asking, I had to keep pushing and pushing to get any information from her, when I spoke to the triage team and told them of our concerns about dad being absolutely worn out and needing her in some respite care while he can sort out a care plan, she just mentioned she leave a list of care homes which she didn't even remember to give us and the agression from mam when he tries to wash her
and about her throwing stuff at him they were really helpful and they needed an emergency assessment, well we got very little help from this ladies so called safeguarding emergency assessment
Their needs are ,I could tell she was wanting to rush off but I kept on asking, I had to keep pushing and pushing to get any information from her, when I spoke to the triage team and told them of our concerns about dad being absolutely worn out and needing her in some respite care while he can sort out a care plan, she just mentioned she leave a list of care homes which she didn't even remember to give us and the agression from mam when he tries to wash her
and about her throwing stuff at him they were really helpful and they needed an emergency assessment, well we got very little help from this ladies so called safeguarding emergency assessment