My husband says that I am like the boy who put his finger in the dam to prevent a flood. And it is true the more I do for my mother (whose is on a steady and rapid decline, that makes her vulnerable from harm and persuasion; so a cause for concern) so others consider her well and won't accept there is a problem. Mostly absent and distrustful members of family are not proactive; they merely intend to disrupt the care provision I have put ion place and adversely impact on mum's mental wellbeing further by plaguing her with lies; they do not consult, ask questions but will complain, spout erroneous claims to challenge my integrity and look for reasons to object. Poor mum is increasingly confused, frail and easily manipulated so she feels compelled to agree or tell stories to keep the doubting Thomas' on side; she agrees with virtually everyone (worryingly, even when they are pushing for her to change her LPA in their favour). She is unaware that they are rifling through her personal possessions, moving personal objects. Now they know there is a camera they disable it during their rare visits. Social services say I cannot object to their visits or prevent them visiting her, and I have not their behaviour is alarming and disturbing, and harmful to mum's wellbeing. Trying to protect her is a nightmare; despite numerous medical opinions to support Mum's diagnosis and present condition, they only appear willing to assess and confirm capacity (which was done two years ago) but reluctant to do the opposite. So is the contagion of fear of making an incorrect diagnosis. Its hardly surprising that family members elected as attorneys end up walking away but I made a promise to my mum I would not be bullied and will stand my ground when she asked me to be her attorney two years ago. Consequently, I am a slave to the challenges that disruptive and mean spirited family members create for my ever frail mother.