Dad 81 with mild mixed dementia.
Had surgery 5 yrs ago for enlarged prostate, and is on tablets for urinary frequency.
Dad lives on his own behind me.
My brother lives with him off & on, between girlfriends
Since January we have smelt a mild urine odour in dads room.
He has a waterproof mattress protector. No signs of incontinence, no obvious patches on carpet.
He has a nightlight in hallway.
One time I spotted a plastic container beside his bed.
I asked him what it was for... he says he has a lot of spit ( he smokes) so he spits in it
He has hankies besides his bed?
Today I’ve gone over... and what do I find? A plastic container right beside his bed filled to the brim with urine & spit
He says he does it because he doesnt want to wake my brother at night flushing the loo.
Yes my brother was there last night, but hasnt been there for past 3 mnths, and this was when I found the container last time.
I asked Dad if he was being caught short at night or just lazy to get out of bed.
After ignoring my question, he finally admitted to being too lazy.
I also think he is sleeping in his clothes at night judging by his neatly folded pjs my sister placed on top of the other pillow still there from weeks ago.
Heaven knows the smell if he kicked the container over
I dont think its a case of being caught short, as I can often be out shopping or at Mums care home with Dad 2-4 hrs and he doesnt go to the loo once.
Not like when he had his prostate issue. No obvious signs of urinary incontinence, not that he would admit to either.
Any suggestions?
Had surgery 5 yrs ago for enlarged prostate, and is on tablets for urinary frequency.
Dad lives on his own behind me.
My brother lives with him off & on, between girlfriends
Since January we have smelt a mild urine odour in dads room.
He has a waterproof mattress protector. No signs of incontinence, no obvious patches on carpet.
He has a nightlight in hallway.
One time I spotted a plastic container beside his bed.
I asked him what it was for... he says he has a lot of spit ( he smokes) so he spits in it
He has hankies besides his bed?
Today I’ve gone over... and what do I find? A plastic container right beside his bed filled to the brim with urine & spit
He says he does it because he doesnt want to wake my brother at night flushing the loo.
Yes my brother was there last night, but hasnt been there for past 3 mnths, and this was when I found the container last time.
I asked Dad if he was being caught short at night or just lazy to get out of bed.
After ignoring my question, he finally admitted to being too lazy.
I also think he is sleeping in his clothes at night judging by his neatly folded pjs my sister placed on top of the other pillow still there from weeks ago.
Heaven knows the smell if he kicked the container over
I dont think its a case of being caught short, as I can often be out shopping or at Mums care home with Dad 2-4 hrs and he doesnt go to the loo once.
Not like when he had his prostate issue. No obvious signs of urinary incontinence, not that he would admit to either.
Any suggestions?