Mum has been in hospital for 24 nights tonight, after an innocuous fall. I visited twice and then got covid, and when I was finally clear it was 16 days between visits. I was very shocked in her decline, in an hour and a half she talked non-stop about lots of people she knew, but most are dead for many years. She was upset I hadn’t visited her parents (died in 1986 and 1997) and said that lots of the people in the hospital had known her at Sunday school. I know none of this is unusual, but it was all new behaviour. Then a nurse came to check if she needed her pad changing - hang on, she was continent when she went into hospital! Well she isn’t any more.
I have been ringing the ward, speaking to OT’s, physio’s, nurses, saying how concerned I am, I visited a really nice care home and lined up a room for her if required (mum is self funding and I’ve made this known), but the hospital has been adamant that she goes home with care 4 x a day (I normally only visit once a week).
I had a phone call at 5pm today to tell me that mum was being discharged the next day and would be home by 10.30am. I have worked all evening and just got home, had to cancel tomorrows work, and need to be there to but milk, bread etc, and the Urgent Care Team are coming around lunchtime and I really need to be there for that.
I am as you can probably tell a bit traumatised about the whole thing.
What do I need to do tomorrow that I’ve forgotten or never knew about please? I will ring the Alzheimer’s nurse contact that I already have in place.
I have been ringing the ward, speaking to OT’s, physio’s, nurses, saying how concerned I am, I visited a really nice care home and lined up a room for her if required (mum is self funding and I’ve made this known), but the hospital has been adamant that she goes home with care 4 x a day (I normally only visit once a week).
I had a phone call at 5pm today to tell me that mum was being discharged the next day and would be home by 10.30am. I have worked all evening and just got home, had to cancel tomorrows work, and need to be there to but milk, bread etc, and the Urgent Care Team are coming around lunchtime and I really need to be there for that.
I am as you can probably tell a bit traumatised about the whole thing.
What do I need to do tomorrow that I’ve forgotten or never knew about please? I will ring the Alzheimer’s nurse contact that I already have in place.