I’m turning to all you lovely people here that really know what life is like with someone close that has dementia.
My husband went into care 6 months ago. I’m still not able to visit him in his room, and can only visit twice a week. Full PPE etc. I’ve been very concerned and diligent to make sure that I don‘t go to any events indoors with more than about 10 people, and wear my mask indoors in shops, public transport etc. so that I can continue to visit him. The threat from the home is that if they have two people who test positive (staff or residents) they will close for two weeks.
My granddaughter tested positive for COVID on Monday, and now half her class are off school with it. I decided not to visit my husband at the beginning of the week in case I was a carrier ( as I saw my granddaughter at the weekend). I had a PCR test on Tuesday which was negative, and also a lateral flow test today, which was also negative. I’m due to see my husband tomorrow, and really want to go, but would be mortified if I took it into the home.
In addition, as the weather becomes colder there will be more events indoors. I have been invited to a 40th birthday party on Saturday where there will be about 30 people indoors in a smallish house. I’d really like to go to this, as it’s with ex colleagues that I haven’t seen for quite awhile. Now that I’m living alone I feel that if I keep turning down invitations people will stop asking me. It’s such a dilemma.
My one wish is to be able to see my husband whenever I want. People who think they’re being kind say to me ‘as he doesn’t know you anymore he won’t miss you’, if I have to miss an appointment. I wish it was as straightforward as that. Even though he is barely recognisable as my husband anymore I find that I really need to see him.
Am I being over cautious? Should I go to some indoor events and just shrug my shoulders and hope for the best? What are you all doing? Do you continue to shield?
My husband went into care 6 months ago. I’m still not able to visit him in his room, and can only visit twice a week. Full PPE etc. I’ve been very concerned and diligent to make sure that I don‘t go to any events indoors with more than about 10 people, and wear my mask indoors in shops, public transport etc. so that I can continue to visit him. The threat from the home is that if they have two people who test positive (staff or residents) they will close for two weeks.
My granddaughter tested positive for COVID on Monday, and now half her class are off school with it. I decided not to visit my husband at the beginning of the week in case I was a carrier ( as I saw my granddaughter at the weekend). I had a PCR test on Tuesday which was negative, and also a lateral flow test today, which was also negative. I’m due to see my husband tomorrow, and really want to go, but would be mortified if I took it into the home.
In addition, as the weather becomes colder there will be more events indoors. I have been invited to a 40th birthday party on Saturday where there will be about 30 people indoors in a smallish house. I’d really like to go to this, as it’s with ex colleagues that I haven’t seen for quite awhile. Now that I’m living alone I feel that if I keep turning down invitations people will stop asking me. It’s such a dilemma.
My one wish is to be able to see my husband whenever I want. People who think they’re being kind say to me ‘as he doesn’t know you anymore he won’t miss you’, if I have to miss an appointment. I wish it was as straightforward as that. Even though he is barely recognisable as my husband anymore I find that I really need to see him.
Am I being over cautious? Should I go to some indoor events and just shrug my shoulders and hope for the best? What are you all doing? Do you continue to shield?