Has anyone else struggled with the inevitable increased contact after a parent has been diagnosed with dementia. I was never close to my Mum and left home as soon as I was legally old enough. Never went back or told my parents about some of the awful situations I ended up in as childhood experiences taught me that I was simply expected to just get on with things. I always lived a few hundred miles away and the 150 mikes I live now is the closest I’ve been.
Since being diagnosed with Alzheimer’s earlier this year I’ve had increasing phone calls from my Mum often because she’s bored but more often than not it’s due to her having vague physical health symptoms which are always due to anxiety. The calls tend to be unproductive as Mum doesn’t listen to advice and talks at me. Despite knowing I work she persists in ringing during times when I’m likely to be at work or if not the minute she thinks I’m home. I’m really finding this increased contact difficult after a lifetime of limited contact. My heart sinks and I immediately feel irritated when her number flashes up on my phone I’ve tried not answering but then she rings again a few minutes later. Just wondered how others cope with more frequent contact from a parent they historically had a distant relationship with.
Since being diagnosed with Alzheimer’s earlier this year I’ve had increasing phone calls from my Mum often because she’s bored but more often than not it’s due to her having vague physical health symptoms which are always due to anxiety. The calls tend to be unproductive as Mum doesn’t listen to advice and talks at me. Despite knowing I work she persists in ringing during times when I’m likely to be at work or if not the minute she thinks I’m home. I’m really finding this increased contact difficult after a lifetime of limited contact. My heart sinks and I immediately feel irritated when her number flashes up on my phone I’ve tried not answering but then she rings again a few minutes later. Just wondered how others cope with more frequent contact from a parent they historically had a distant relationship with.