Hello there, We have just started our 87 year old mum in respite, lovely place, enjoy their approach, have no issues at all if it works out for mum to settle in there on a permanent basis, I think we would be overjoyed. Mum has some savings and will have to sell her small property too - not the issue, however getting social to take some responsibility for this respite did have it's challenges which have been settled now. In 4 weeks we need to decide what next and in this first week we have seen that mum has been confused about what is happening, unsure what to do, getting disorientated, wanting to come out with us when we leave. All part of getting used to change and difficult for us as a family as we do want what is in the best interest of mum yet struggle with how we see her coping or struggling. At home she was starting to be more unsafe, vulnerable, confused etc. so we need more care than what we can provide as a family. Do you have any examples of pros, cons, positives or negatives about home care, what this could look like and if this is the best way forward rather than continue to stay with settling her in residential care home that is suitable for those with dementia.