I apologise in advance if my post upsets anyone, however I need to talk about this.
I have a difficult relationship with my mum, I think the technical word is co-dependent... my brother also knows 'what she can be like'...
My mum has always had ideas of grandeur and indeed in the past my parents were very wealthy but unfortunately lost their home and business in 1991 - they never really recovered from that to the level that they aspired too. They now live in a more than adequate two bedroom flat and drive a nice car - but you can tell my mum thinks this is not good enough. My brother and I have both done well for ourselves (we learnt from our parents mistakes!) and I think she is jealous of our success (we have both worked hard to get where we are).
I love my parents and it breaks my heart to see dad deteriorate in front of our eyes, he was diagnosed with heart failure 2 years ago and now Alzheimer's. My mum had a cancer battle in 2010 and despite having a urostomy, she was doing well. Now however, she has gone downhill herself and I'm sure the stress of looking after dad is taking its toll. My brother and I have offered to have them at home or move them into a property with an annexe but they've always refused help, but now its getting bad.. REALLY BAD... mum has a shaking leg and arm and is being tested for Parkinson's.
They are so miserable... she picks on dad and winds him up, even though he is away with the fairies most of the time. She likes to say things like 'do you remember that word you couldn't remember dear - oh yes, that's the word Anxiety' ***!!!!
My husband says she is bitter and just taking it out on the nearest and dearest (usually me) and trying to take me down with her. To be frank , she is being a *****.... I love them, I love her... but I don't like her a lot of the time. She is cruel, manipulative, angry, bitter... I feel like walking away sometimes, but then I try even harder to get her approval... I'm the little kid, wanting mummy to love me and nurture - I think she is incapable of either now.
I hate my life, I really do.... its a bloody slow car crash!
I have a difficult relationship with my mum, I think the technical word is co-dependent... my brother also knows 'what she can be like'...
My mum has always had ideas of grandeur and indeed in the past my parents were very wealthy but unfortunately lost their home and business in 1991 - they never really recovered from that to the level that they aspired too. They now live in a more than adequate two bedroom flat and drive a nice car - but you can tell my mum thinks this is not good enough. My brother and I have both done well for ourselves (we learnt from our parents mistakes!) and I think she is jealous of our success (we have both worked hard to get where we are).
I love my parents and it breaks my heart to see dad deteriorate in front of our eyes, he was diagnosed with heart failure 2 years ago and now Alzheimer's. My mum had a cancer battle in 2010 and despite having a urostomy, she was doing well. Now however, she has gone downhill herself and I'm sure the stress of looking after dad is taking its toll. My brother and I have offered to have them at home or move them into a property with an annexe but they've always refused help, but now its getting bad.. REALLY BAD... mum has a shaking leg and arm and is being tested for Parkinson's.
They are so miserable... she picks on dad and winds him up, even though he is away with the fairies most of the time. She likes to say things like 'do you remember that word you couldn't remember dear - oh yes, that's the word Anxiety' ***!!!!
My husband says she is bitter and just taking it out on the nearest and dearest (usually me) and trying to take me down with her. To be frank , she is being a *****.... I love them, I love her... but I don't like her a lot of the time. She is cruel, manipulative, angry, bitter... I feel like walking away sometimes, but then I try even harder to get her approval... I'm the little kid, wanting mummy to love me and nurture - I think she is incapable of either now.
I hate my life, I really do.... its a bloody slow car crash!