My fil has been in a care home since the beginning of October after falling in his flat and breaking his hip. He has dementia and is registered blind due to having no central vision and very little peripheral either due AMD. We had been trying to persuade him to go into a home due to the progression of his dementia. He could sort of have a conversation but loses the thread very quickly and then you have no idea what he is talking about. The day he broke his hip he had carers going in for an hour in the morning and an hour later in the afternoon (we tried to make it an evening one but he told them he didn't want anyone then and so they changed it , but didn't tell us). He fell and did not have his care alarm round his neck so he had to crawl on his tummy to his bedroom to get help. He also had put the oven on but there was nothing in it as he had then put his sandwich in the microwave. We arranged for him to move to a really nice CH and he has the best room there. After his operation he had delirium for a week and since the surgery his dementia has worsened. He has no idea how to turn his tv on/off or change the channel, he can't work his mobile phone even though he only has one button with a raised bump on it to press. He doesn't think or know how to phone us. He has food treats we bring him piling up on his table as he can't see them and forgers they are there. He was ok in the home to begin and we thought he was settling. However he now is adamant he is going back to the flat. Every conversation with him is about how we are not going to stop him going back. He can't walk unaided and has two sticks and is very unsteady on his feet. A Dementia nurse went to see him yesterday as we have asked Ss to assess him and see if he is deemed to have capacity to understand his safety regarding going back home. We don't think he is capable of making decisions regarding his safety and he told the nurse yesterday that in the flat he cooks his own food (which is completely untrue) . She has said she thinks he has capacity but he needs to be assessed by ss to determine whether he can go home. We are totally against this as he not only has dementia and can't make decisions on looking after himself safely but he can't see either. Hubby has poa and the home have said that although he can make decisions on day to day activities he is unable to make complex decisions. She also said that although he keeps talking about going home he is quite settled there although he seems to hate the food and has lost weight. We found recently though that he had become very faddy about food and when the carers came to his flat and left him sandwiches they had made he loved them to begin with and then hated them so we bought shop made ones which again he liked to begin with but then he hated those as well. So really we don't think he likes any food much now. He his encouraged in the CH to join in the gardening activities and they have an entertainer weekly which he enjoys. If he was in the flat he would have none of this and he spent every day in the flat just sitting in his chair. We so want him to stay in the home for his own safety and to give him motivation to get involved in activities but if ss say he he can cope in the flat with carers going in, do we have no choice but to let him go back and wait for the next emergency call, which we know will happen. If ss say he has some capacity surely they have to take his blindness into consideration as well. He wouldn't be able to get up in the night to go to the loo as he's so unsteady we think he will fall over and we don't see how he would be able to get up from his chair to answer the door. We knew the only way we would get him into a CH was if he had an accident and were so relieved when we had moved him in but seems we may have go back to square one and wait for the next disaster. I am not in good health myself and all the family are at work during the day so it just me available week days. I find the stress of all this just makes my chronic illness worse. Do we have any say over where he lives? I have made a list off all the things he will say he can do but we know full well that he can't. Any advice please