Hi,
This is my first post.
I'm joyous to have stumbled on this forum. If only I had seen it 18 months ago.
My father has FTD and makes lewd comments to women, occasionally trying to touch them. He also has mobility and continence issues and no short term memory.
Following a recent 3 week stay in hospital he has gone into a CH for 4 weeks respite, which I hope will become permanent.
I have supported him (with three time a day carers) for 18 months by visiting him after work every day (he lives 20 miles away). The incredible relief I feel about having him now only 1 mile away, no shopping, cleaning, washing, driving, and all the other stuff is tempered with guilt. I hope he is in the CH for his own good and not mine.
He has settled well but of course makes constant remarks to the female staff - some of which have made me shocked - I hadn't realised they were so explicit (at home he just had male carers and never says anything out of order to me).
My question is 'is he likely to be accepted for the long term with this behaviour?'
I daren't ask the home (I know!) because I'm so scared they will turn him away. Having had 4 weeks with no direct caring duties - only social visits - I can't believe how well I feel.
That sounds so selfish but I'm sure you know what I mean.
This is my first post.
I'm joyous to have stumbled on this forum. If only I had seen it 18 months ago.
My father has FTD and makes lewd comments to women, occasionally trying to touch them. He also has mobility and continence issues and no short term memory.
Following a recent 3 week stay in hospital he has gone into a CH for 4 weeks respite, which I hope will become permanent.
I have supported him (with three time a day carers) for 18 months by visiting him after work every day (he lives 20 miles away). The incredible relief I feel about having him now only 1 mile away, no shopping, cleaning, washing, driving, and all the other stuff is tempered with guilt. I hope he is in the CH for his own good and not mine.
He has settled well but of course makes constant remarks to the female staff - some of which have made me shocked - I hadn't realised they were so explicit (at home he just had male carers and never says anything out of order to me).
My question is 'is he likely to be accepted for the long term with this behaviour?'
I daren't ask the home (I know!) because I'm so scared they will turn him away. Having had 4 weeks with no direct caring duties - only social visits - I can't believe how well I feel.
That sounds so selfish but I'm sure you know what I mean.