Jean is not incontinent by the strict definition of the word. She is able to find and use the toilet when necessary however, she does not clean herself afterwards. Sometime ago I introduced incontinence pads which have worked very well up to the present time but now she has started to remove the pads, when I am out of the house, tearing them up and hiding them in obscure places in the house or, more usually, in the garden. I have had some suggestions for combatting this such as introducing pads which are built into underwear and using a swimming costume to put the pads in. Both these are very practical suggestions but somehow do not appeal to either me or Jean. I feel that if she wears a swimming costume she may stop using the toilet altogether as she will not be capable of removing it when she she needs to go. I have also had samples of the pull up pants with pads and she has taken one look at these and flung them across the room with a snort of derision. I realise that that there may not be a complete answer to stopping her removing the pads but I really would welcome any further suggestions in case there is anything I have overlooked.