Advice please, this is my first post. My mother has been increasingly experiencing short term memory loss over the past four years along with other personality changes. I am sure I don't have to explain these here. After gp referral to the memory clinic, assessment there, brain scan and further assessment my parents had the diagnostic appointment. Unfortunately my father suffers from hypoxic brain damage from a cardiac arrest he was lucky to survive so the feedback from that appointment to my brother and I changes at each telling! My mum is feeling acute shame about her situation and refuses to acknowledge anything to my brother or I so conversations are difficult with my dad who is stuck in the middle. My dad is refusing to acknowledge it is Alzheimer's despite mum being prescribed with donepezil and also being given the forms to advise the dvlc of her condition and to arrange for a driving assessment. He says they were told it is cognitive impairment only. Next conversation it is accepted. My question is, would a doctor read the situation with individuals and assess their capacity to deal with the diagnosis and not actually say the word Alzheimer's? Or is it that my dad is blocking it himself. My mother hasn't even accepted she has been to the memory clinic much less anything else. It makes knowing how to move forward with any help and support very difficult.