After caring for my father who was suffering with dementia, in recent weeks I was experiencing great difficulty in getting him to eat? His food intake went down to nothing shortly followed by his reluctance to drink.
I was so desperate and fearful I called 111 which resulted in a first responder arriving at the house, followed later by an ambulance which took my father to the hospital.
Sadly I was not allowed to visit and had to rely on telephone calls to monitor his progress. Again he was very reluctant to accept food or drink. Unfortunately he had tested positive for Covid but I never noticed any change in him and was convinced everything was due to his dementia. After a week he was moved to another facility and I was allowed to visit. His appearance shocked me to the core as he was so painfully thin. He was still refusing to take food and drink along with being quite vocal, agitated and pushing the staff away whenever they approached him, even trying to give mouth care.
This continued for a week but there were spells when he was comfortable and settled. I believe he was being given a muscle relaxant?
Last wednesday evening, he passed away and I am now absolutely devastated at the loss of a man I idolised.
I simply can't get it out my mind that this was all my fault and keep asking myself why I rang 111. I was just so scared and didn't know what else to do.
Due to this fear I used to be quite persistent with him when trying to get him to eat & drink although I appreciate it was probably the wrong approach.
I just keep looking back over these past two weeks when apart from the eating problems, we were doing ok. It was hard but we were getting by. He was never agitated at home when he was with me. All I kept hearing from various professionals was that my dad was approaching the end of his life although I wouldn't accept it. The deterioration was horrendous when all throughout his stsh in hospital I was filled with the anticipation that he was always coming back home to me. The dreadful end result now being that I have lost the man I loved with all my heart
I was so desperate and fearful I called 111 which resulted in a first responder arriving at the house, followed later by an ambulance which took my father to the hospital.
Sadly I was not allowed to visit and had to rely on telephone calls to monitor his progress. Again he was very reluctant to accept food or drink. Unfortunately he had tested positive for Covid but I never noticed any change in him and was convinced everything was due to his dementia. After a week he was moved to another facility and I was allowed to visit. His appearance shocked me to the core as he was so painfully thin. He was still refusing to take food and drink along with being quite vocal, agitated and pushing the staff away whenever they approached him, even trying to give mouth care.
This continued for a week but there were spells when he was comfortable and settled. I believe he was being given a muscle relaxant?
Last wednesday evening, he passed away and I am now absolutely devastated at the loss of a man I idolised.
I simply can't get it out my mind that this was all my fault and keep asking myself why I rang 111. I was just so scared and didn't know what else to do.
Due to this fear I used to be quite persistent with him when trying to get him to eat & drink although I appreciate it was probably the wrong approach.
I just keep looking back over these past two weeks when apart from the eating problems, we were doing ok. It was hard but we were getting by. He was never agitated at home when he was with me. All I kept hearing from various professionals was that my dad was approaching the end of his life although I wouldn't accept it. The deterioration was horrendous when all throughout his stsh in hospital I was filled with the anticipation that he was always coming back home to me. The dreadful end result now being that I have lost the man I loved with all my heart