1. northumbrian_k

    northumbrian_k Registered User

    Mar 2, 2017
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    Newcastle
    Whatever other problems she has, my wife still commands a good vocabulary. We had a poignant moment yesterday morning after I had helped her to wash and dress when tearfully she said “I’m not me anymore” quickly followed by “I want me back”. All I could do was give her a hug and a few words of reassurance. She was in fine fettle by the time we went to see her GP for another pointless consultation**.

    By the evening she was calling me 'despicable' for living in 'her house' uninvited and conspiring with her sister to defraud her out of it. A standard day really but for once I would have liked her to see that it was me who was in need of some sympathy for a minor stomach upset.

    **The GP did sign the form that allows me to claim council tax rebate on the grounds of my wife's severe mental impairment so at least we got something out of the visit..
     
  2. canary

    canary Registered User

    Feb 25, 2014
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    ((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))
     
  3. Izzy

    Izzy Volunteer Moderator

    Aug 31, 2003
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    Oh such a roller coaster of emotions @northumbrian_k.

    I'm glad you can share here and hope it helps - even just a bit.

    Glad you got the GP's signature!
     
  4. Grahamstown

    Grahamstown Registered User

    Jan 12, 2018
    1,186
    East of England
    I saw your mention of council tax rebate and I have called our council and they told me what to do. He has already got Attendance Allowance so it should be straightforward. So glad I saw that thank you and very sorry to hear what a difficult time you have.
     
  5. nae sporran

    nae sporran Volunteer Host

    Oct 29, 2014
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    Hope your stomach upset clears soon Northumbrian K. Sorry you had such a hard day on top of it.
     
  6. Beate

    Beate Registered User

    May 21, 2014
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  7. nellbelles

    nellbelles Volunteer Host

    Nov 6, 2008
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    I hope you feel better tomorrow @northumbrian_k it’s hard to keep the caring going when you feel ill.
     
  8. jenniferjean

    jenniferjean Registered User

    Apr 2, 2016
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    Female
    Basingstoke, Hampshire
    I had to leave my form at reception for the doctor to sign. The charge for that was £20, just to sign a form.
     
  9. Beate

    Beate Registered User

    May 21, 2014
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    Doctors aren't allowed to charge for this form. There is an official list of what they are allowed to charge for, and that's not on it.
     
  10. jenniferjean

    jenniferjean Registered User

    Apr 2, 2016
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    I wish I'd known that at the time.
     
  11. maryjoan

    maryjoan Registered User

    Mar 25, 2017
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    @northumbrian_k

    So a bit of a good and a bad day. I believe the Martin Lewis programme this evening had something about the Council Tax rebate - I did not see it. How does one go about the Council Tax rebate?
    Hope you're upset stomach is feeling better - you do not need that on top of other things. poignant what your wife said this morning though...... my OH reflects no emotions whatsoever of any kind - just huffs and puffs all day long....
     
  12. Grannie G

    Grannie G Volunteer Moderator

    Apr 3, 2006
    68,901
    Kent
    You can get a 25% discount if someone in the house has a mental illness and gets attendance allowance. Mine was back dated.

    Apply to your local council.
     
  13. Duggies-girl

    Duggies-girl Registered User

    Sep 6, 2017
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    I think the 25 per cent is for living alone. My dad pays nothing as a severely mentally impaired person living alone. He is on the highest rate of DLA care component and his Gp signed the form at a cost of fifteen pounds.

    Dad knows nothing about this of course.
     
  14. One Moment At A Time

    One Moment At A Time Registered User

    Jan 4, 2019
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    Dear Person, the only thing I could sincerely share is my health is not "too very good looking", but above all I'm thankful to a Higher Power, for the give of "today & now", family, friends & having the attitude of "baby steps, easy does it, One Moment At A Time", as long as I have the ability to breath & reason, I enjoy life to it's fullest by fellowship with my family & friends, be safe take care & may the Higher Power of your understanding bless you & your loved ones -- One Moment At A Time.
     
  15. Izzy

    Izzy Volunteer Moderator

    Aug 31, 2003
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  16. PalSal

    PalSal Registered User

    @northumbrian_k
    Sounds like a tough day. Interesting how there are moments of clarity in the process. Take care and lots of HUGS
     
  17. AliceA

    AliceA Registered User

    May 27, 2016
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    I was not charged for a signature.
    What did delay was a confusion of the evidence needed. I sent electronic copies as advised by the council person. Then nothing happened. I had to chase many times then I was advised that only in the case of 'severe mental impairment' hard copies were needed.
    Tor other reasons to claim electronic would suffice!
    I duly sent docucuments by recorded delivery. chased again but then it was back dated to the date of diagnosis.
    Two and a half years @ 25% discount. So worth the effort.
    Diagnosis seemed the key.

    I was told to claim at start but was not ready to put severe mental impairment as the reason. My husband's dignity seemed under threat. However I did not lose out.
     
  18. maryjoan

    maryjoan Registered User

    Mar 25, 2017
    1,254
    Female
    South of the Border
    Worth a try then.... I shall be onto the Council today!
     
  19. northumbrian_k

    northumbrian_k Registered User

    Mar 2, 2017
    650
    Male
    Newcastle
    I have had no such problems. I submitted the form electronically on Monday this week and have today received notification of the 25% disregard amount payable back to July 2017, the date when my wife was first awarded Attendance Allowance.

    A very simple process, quickly executed by Newcastle City Council so chapeau to them. Definitely worth doing and not worth worrying about the SMI label or loss of dignity that might be implied.
     
  20. Loopiloo

    Loopiloo Registered User

    May 10, 2010
    6,119
    Female
    Scotland
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    That is over the top. £20! :( Some GPs never charge, ours never has,

    Loo xx
     

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