i have logged on in desperation for the first time being inspired by some of the exchanges and support given by many on this site. my father who has AD is being looked after at home by my mother. After an awful xmas where he deteriorated and came in and out of hospital following a chest infection and urinary tract infection, my mum is struggling to cope with his incontinence and wakefulness at night. He is wetting a number of times at night and sometimes during the day but is not bothered by this. He is very sleepy during the day- awake many times during the night. he talks little, now stoops greatly and seems so fragile and has fallen a couple of times. We don't know how to manage this- is he now at an advanced stage?/ should she have him take sleeping tablets/ etc etc help help! there must be lots of you who can give us some advice. Anything would be very welcome. Mum is very tired/ emotionally exhausted and at her wits end. Dad goes to a great day centre a couple of times a week and mum now has a CPN to talk to but it's the nightly routine/ knowing where he's at which we don't know how to manage.