My neighbour's wife is in what I assume to be the late stages of dementia. He now admits he must find some residential care for her, but he just CANNOT do anything about it. He is old and sick himself, and also looks after his disabled son. He WILL NOT ask for help. We do what we can but cannot force him. His children don't appear to do anything, but maybe he is the same with them as he is with us? The house is filthy and the kitchen unsafe. Help please.