I'm desperate for some urgent advise for my friend please not myself this time. Her Mum died of cancer a couple of years ago and my friend still lives in the family home with Dad and her 3 dogs. Consumed with grief and very depressed she has found it difficult coping with her Dad who has become extremely aggressive and has had several falls. He is diabetic and refuses to take his medication and eat properly and as my friend works full time and does days then night shifts she is finding it totally unbearable and difficult to manage. I understand she has tried several times to get help with carers to pop in a couple of times a day to administer his tablets and keep an eye on him but he tells them he doesn't need their help and keeps cancelling them! He has now had several short stays in hospital due to falls, mostly falling down the stairs it seems and he is having incontinence problems. There seems to be confusion over whether he has actually been diagnosed with dementia or not as my friends sister (who is the attorney for the LPA but does nothing practical to help my friend and Dad just the odd visit) is in denial theres,anything wrong and doesn't keep my friend up to speed with info she's been given at the hospital where he currently is due to yet another serious fall. The discharge nurse has called for a meeting with both my friend and her sister tomorrow and my friend is worried Dad is going to be sent home with nothing in place as they are now saying they cant keep him there any longer as he is physically ok and the latest mental health assessment was fine so he's ready to come home!!!! Its totally appalling they are saying this when clearly,this is not the case. My friend said when she visited at the hospital yesterday Dad was really aggressive with her and totally confused and shes really worried he is being discharged to get him out the way as its Christmas and she is going to have to accept being put into a situation she cannot cope with. I just want to try and help my friend as she's on the verge of a breakdown still dealing with the loss of her Mum,trying to keep the home going, holding down a full time job on shift work, coming home to complete chaos everyday and cope with Dad plus look after her lovely dogs and I'm afraid Dad could be sent home this week when I feel the whole situation is unsafe for everyone, including the dogs. Dad lets them out in the street by mistake sometimes and is also aggressive with them too as well as my friend. Please can someone help me to help them as I am unsure what to tell her and the discharge meeting is tomorrow. Thank you.