Hello All, Please can I have some guidance on how we have our Nan taken into a home. She is currently living on her own, is not compliant with her medication, we have not seen a social worker in almost 2 years, we are lucky if she is assessed once a year by the mental health team let alone every 6 months, and when they do she deflects the questions and avoids answering and they say she is fine and doing well. The reality is so different...she can act so lucid when anyone medical is around and they take the face value. The reality is she is destroying my in-laws life (they are both retired and not in the best of health). She calls them on the phone constantly, and if she does not get what she wants she starts harassing other family members over the phone. My father in law is having to go to her house up to 4 times a day to sort out issues, and he himself is desperately unwell. She no longer recognises most of the family and when she forgets who my mother in law is she becomes violent like nothing you have ever seen before...She is a tiny spit of a woman and the last time it took 6 security guards in the hospital to get her under control. They are at the end of their endurance and we need help...urgently. We have no idea what the process is to have her placed in a home where she can be looked after properly. we do not know who to contact and cannot rely on the medical fraternity (very sad to admit as I myself work as a paramedic). The difficulty is that our nan can be very manipulative and although she can appear lucid she is not...people just do not seem to get how dementia works Our nan is not really able to look after herself anymore, she is unable to clean for herself, she has forgotten how to use the cooker so lives on yoghurt, toast, sandwiches and ready cooked chicken. She does not take her medicine as she should, she feigns illness or injury to get us to go up there several times a day, she phones my in laws constantly, she refuses to accept any help in the house as she says that cleaning services steal and makes all sorts of wild accusations. she is unkempt and does not keep herself as she used to, if challenged in any way shape of form she becomes verbally or physically vicious...my in laws now plan their life to avoid, her so they arrange to be out on days she is in and on the days she goes to her clubs they have as days off (unless she feigns illness and does not go) this cannot go on...I am watching her slowly kill my in laws...HELP PLEASE!!!!!