Many of you are aware there is an ongoing court case relating to my mother who currently resides with me but whom my sister is hoping to live with her despite my mother wanting to remain with me. She is also trying to get financial deputyship despite there being a police investigation re her handling of mums money previously. She is also trying to get health and welfare and control of who mum sees and speaks to. I have now applied for deputyship and am objecting to everything, as well as being advised to do so by the police as neither my mum or I were ever notified of this application to the court in the first place!! Prior to this my sister had had no contact with mum for at least ten years!!
Two hearings in and with another coming up and having had to comply with many officials coming to my home to question mum on various things relating to the above and also having my home thoroughly scrutinised for suitability for my mother to remain with me (its a joke, I have a beautiful home and have made many adaptations to make mums life easier at my own expense such as handrails, walk in shower etc), things are not moving forward.
The main sticking point is because it was decided at the last hearing my mum must have twice weekly contact with my sister. I had a court order issued to me by the judge to try and facilitate this but mum has refused to go each time. Various suggestions have been made including Ss trying to facilitate this by coming to get mum and try to take her in their car to my sister!! They have also phoned my mother direct on each contact day to ask her to go and to question her why she doesn't want to go. Nobody is respecting my mums wishes that she simply doesn't want to go.
I dont know what to do. How do they think I am able to force my mum to go and why should I? They think I am trying to stop contact because of my own feelings but I am not!! If my mum doesn't want to go, her word should be enough shouldn't it?
There is now talk of forcing me to go to mediation to resolve my "issues with my sister" and also to make me allow contact to take place at my home. Can this be enforced? I'm in such a state as if I dont agree they may take mum away after the next court hearing as they say I am not able to deal with mums emotional needs! I cant make mum see my sister yet I don't think it fair I should be made to allow my sister into my home just so that contact forcibly is able to take place!
Please help me. I'm not sleeping, or eating and feel if Im not careful my health will suffer and I have to keep well and strong for mum. I sometimes feel I'm on the edge of a breakdown!!
Two hearings in and with another coming up and having had to comply with many officials coming to my home to question mum on various things relating to the above and also having my home thoroughly scrutinised for suitability for my mother to remain with me (its a joke, I have a beautiful home and have made many adaptations to make mums life easier at my own expense such as handrails, walk in shower etc), things are not moving forward.
The main sticking point is because it was decided at the last hearing my mum must have twice weekly contact with my sister. I had a court order issued to me by the judge to try and facilitate this but mum has refused to go each time. Various suggestions have been made including Ss trying to facilitate this by coming to get mum and try to take her in their car to my sister!! They have also phoned my mother direct on each contact day to ask her to go and to question her why she doesn't want to go. Nobody is respecting my mums wishes that she simply doesn't want to go.
I dont know what to do. How do they think I am able to force my mum to go and why should I? They think I am trying to stop contact because of my own feelings but I am not!! If my mum doesn't want to go, her word should be enough shouldn't it?
There is now talk of forcing me to go to mediation to resolve my "issues with my sister" and also to make me allow contact to take place at my home. Can this be enforced? I'm in such a state as if I dont agree they may take mum away after the next court hearing as they say I am not able to deal with mums emotional needs! I cant make mum see my sister yet I don't think it fair I should be made to allow my sister into my home just so that contact forcibly is able to take place!
Please help me. I'm not sleeping, or eating and feel if Im not careful my health will suffer and I have to keep well and strong for mum. I sometimes feel I'm on the edge of a breakdown!!
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