Hi
@Dutchman
If we were playing cards, I'd have screamed SNAP in an instant!
Over the last 5 years or more, I seem to have been able to get through the turmoil of emotions of watching the person I adore, slowly disappearing before my eyes. But what eats away at my soul relentlessly, is the awful feeling of loneliness.
I am not alone (we have 2 sons living nearby), but like you, I've lost the person who used to be there for me. The one who would bring me a cup of tea when I was grafting at some DIY task - the one who would scratch my back - the one who would share my worries - the one who would support me, no matter what!
I have just bought a new car. I only went in to get a tyre/wheel problem sorted out. It's dangerous to leave me unattended in a car showroom for an hour and for once, my heart ruled my head. It was a rare selfish "something for me" moment and it felt great, but oh how I miss sharing my delight with my dear wife. After I had picked it up, I collected her from the day centre and I don't think she was even aware that she was getting in a different car
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I applaud all of you lovely carers out there - we are in an exclusive "club" that none of us signed up for.
Best wishes.
Phil