Hi all, I have not been on talking point for a long time and have missed reading threads from those living/caring for those with dementia. I have done many threads relating to the problems from my hateful siblings and their contempt towards those caring for my mum who is on a Emi ward in a nursing home. Even with mum being cared for is a challenge as she refuses any medical care she needs. She refuses to allow nurses treat her ear infections and sores that have developed due to lack of personal care and urine infections. I have been informed by all those involved that they cannot force her. Also my sister who has never visited her in over two years and a brother who has visited For times for approximately 10 mins have applied for deputy's hip over her finances and property. Some of you may remember that my sister and I were originally joint POAs but my sister would not perform her role and my brother and brother in law threatened me when it meant mum needed to spend money for her care when she lived at home. Social services had been threatened as well as hospital staff and care workers in the home. No one has stopped him other than place deprivations of Liberty on my mum stating due to family issues. I have the social services visiting me tomorrow to ask me to contribute evidence of abuse involving my siblings role in trying to take control in stopping mum having care. As my brother and sister are opposing social services being in control of mums finance and they themselves are applying for deputyship it is going to court in two months for the judge to decide. If I give this evidence I might have the abuse again in revenge. If I refuse to give this evidence and they get deputyship (which I would find unbelievable considering the evidence they already have) I wonder if they would have deputyship with high supervision and they accounts they produce would be available under the freedom of information act? I have had absolutely no support from the system and it seems everyone is pussyfooting around my brother. We had two years of hell from my family and I feel like letting them get on with it but would like to keep an eye on things as they both cannot be trusted due to money problems and lack of real care for mum. The home manager says she has never met my sister and has just had to do a DOLS on mum to stop my brother removing mum from the home last week where he said he took in dependant psychiatrist who was going to take my mum out and assess her mental state to see if she can be taken out for days!! Could this happen and would my mum cope in a strange place etc. I hope someone can help.