Thank you one and all for your replies on this subject, sharing different views and various perspectives. All very valid and reasoned opinions depending on your point of view .All in all you have given me some well needed clarity.
I have now decided to get 24 hour care for mum in her home. This will allow me to focus more of my time on my dear daughter who has suffered more than most under the current environment. I evidently cannot save her from a poor school but I can at least save her from an often non present dad who has been totally consumed and stressed out by trying to juggle between her and my poor mother with the unforgiving disease that is Alzheimer’s . The council can fund my mum (less what she can afford from her pension) when her savings are exhausted.
You have made me realise it’s time to take a step back and let my mums money fund her care. For the first time In a long while I can then look forward to taking my daughter on a weekend bicycle ride in the summer and do many every day things that others take for granted . My daughter does not have a mum present and it’s time to give her back her dad!
However my mother will still have her son...I of course will continue to visit her daily while my daughter is at school and at weekends as a family.
I have now decided to get 24 hour care for mum in her home. This will allow me to focus more of my time on my dear daughter who has suffered more than most under the current environment. I evidently cannot save her from a poor school but I can at least save her from an often non present dad who has been totally consumed and stressed out by trying to juggle between her and my poor mother with the unforgiving disease that is Alzheimer’s . The council can fund my mum (less what she can afford from her pension) when her savings are exhausted.
You have made me realise it’s time to take a step back and let my mums money fund her care. For the first time In a long while I can then look forward to taking my daughter on a weekend bicycle ride in the summer and do many every day things that others take for granted . My daughter does not have a mum present and it’s time to give her back her dad!
However my mother will still have her son...I of course will continue to visit her daily while my daughter is at school and at weekends as a family.