Hi all
To-night I am really depressed, as I have said before Mum and Dad have Alzheimers/dementia. They could no longer cope in their own home so I bought a residential chalet and have sited it in my garden. My daughter and cousin help care for them.
To-day I took Mum back to her own home to collect some clothes. I have had to take things softly, softly to get them to stay here.
On arrival I discovered my Brother had removed television and various other items into his house. When I complained about this my Mum defended him and intimated, he was the greatest thing since sliced bread and could have anything he wanted, meanwhile I am minus a television, microwave, toaster, kettle etc. Don't get me wrong these things are not from my own home, but from holiday cottages, I own, but still have to be replaced and it is not the cost, but the unfairness of it.
What hurt the most was my Mum, idolising my brother, who does as little as possible, towards their care and my daughter my cousin and especially me, who is involved getting the blame for daring to argue with him.
I have been reluctant to up the level of social worker's care too quickly, to let them settle in to the Chalet, because in their own home Mum hated "those people" coming into her house. After to-day I think I realise, Mum doesn't know, who does what, for her and tomorrow, I will be asking for carers and meals on wheels, respite whatever?
I am soo hurt to-night, I know she cannot reason, but it is still hard when I am doing my best and the brother who is only out for what he can get is the bee's knees
Sorry for whinging, but I hope I will see things in a better light tomorrow
Alfjess
To-night I am really depressed, as I have said before Mum and Dad have Alzheimers/dementia. They could no longer cope in their own home so I bought a residential chalet and have sited it in my garden. My daughter and cousin help care for them.
To-day I took Mum back to her own home to collect some clothes. I have had to take things softly, softly to get them to stay here.
On arrival I discovered my Brother had removed television and various other items into his house. When I complained about this my Mum defended him and intimated, he was the greatest thing since sliced bread and could have anything he wanted, meanwhile I am minus a television, microwave, toaster, kettle etc. Don't get me wrong these things are not from my own home, but from holiday cottages, I own, but still have to be replaced and it is not the cost, but the unfairness of it.
What hurt the most was my Mum, idolising my brother, who does as little as possible, towards their care and my daughter my cousin and especially me, who is involved getting the blame for daring to argue with him.
I have been reluctant to up the level of social worker's care too quickly, to let them settle in to the Chalet, because in their own home Mum hated "those people" coming into her house. After to-day I think I realise, Mum doesn't know, who does what, for her and tomorrow, I will be asking for carers and meals on wheels, respite whatever?
I am soo hurt to-night, I know she cannot reason, but it is still hard when I am doing my best and the brother who is only out for what he can get is the bee's knees
Sorry for whinging, but I hope I will see things in a better light tomorrow
Alfjess