Thanks for all your replies to my previous post. There has been a DOLS put in place for my husband (never heard of it before) anyway hes tried to get out of the home on several occasions and the Dols has been put in place for his own safety. Keeps saying he wants to come home but its not our home he wants to be it where he lived with his parents.He has very short term memory and ive resorted to lying to him just to comfort him. Home said he needs 24 hr care but there are still some things he can do for himself. He still knows me as his wife and sometimes hes asking for his brothers and sisters that passed on years ago.A lot of the time hes screaming my name over and over but he can be very unsettled at nite and carers give him tea for comfort.