Hi, My mum has been diagnosed with two types of dementia, Alzheimers and vascular dementia. She is 79 and has always been very stubborn. She won't accept any help from SS or the doctors as she thinks she will be put in a home. She has no friends and lives in a rundown cold, dark house a long way from any transport. She is confused and has glaucoma and is almost deaf. She was assessed for capacity in the spring, which 'they' say she has but she isn't coping. I don't live close by and she has no help because she says 'no thank' to everything. She needs daily eye drops but loses the bottle within a day or two. The chemist won't keep prescribing them for cost reasons. I've tried to get a district nurse in to help but because mum is physically fit she goes out. When the nurses come over she is either out or can't hear the doorbell. She forgets appointments and I can't find any medical transport or someone to take her. She can't/won't cook and won't accept meals on wheels, when out she looses money, she only has the state pension. I think she is very vulnerable and in denial but don't know what else to do. Dr days she has capacity and SS she say no to everything! Any advice from the more experienced amongst you?