Thanks for the add. I have always had a difficult relationship with my mother. She is now in a care home and I try to remain a dutiful daughter as I always have done. This is despite a lifetime of her mentally abusive behaviour towards me. She had mental health problems since my childhood which is why I have never abandoned her as in my heart I feel she cannot help it. I visit her regularly but sometimes wonder why I bother. Can anyone else identify with this? I have found little written about dealing with someone who develops dementia that exacerbates an already struggling relationship. Thank you.