Why pick on cancer? Reading all these comments on cancer I find very depressing. Are any of you living with it? There are many times I wish I would die when the pain becomes unbearable. If I were living with Alzheimer's the last thing I'd like to hear or read about is how it is the worst ever illness to have. Is it any wonder so many people live in denial? What a bleak and fearful future!
On reflection I'm pleased that I was not on the internet during the years I cared for my wife. For a start, I could not have afforded to spend valuable time away from all that it entails, caring for my wife 24/7, on my own year on year. Why did I come on this site? I thought I might be of some positive help, by sharing my experiences. At least I did help some people by giving away free both our wheelchair, commode and other items, to people in need after my wife passed.
As for support for cancer patients, I still haven't found any. If I were to go through it all again I'm not sure I would have accepted the operation. Two weeks in intensive care, then five weeks in hospital. I was sent home to live on my own with no support, but there's no point complaining. It's the way things are and I make the best of it.
Yes there are things a lot worse than cancer and Alzheimer's, at least for me. The worst so far, was to suddenly lose a teenage daughter. There one moment: knocked down and killed the next. At least with Alzheimer's I was granted the time and opportunity to provide the best possible comfort, love and reassurance all the way to the most important person to enter my life.
I can't comment on the loss of a Mum, Dad, Grandparent, brother or sister, never knew them. With my wife she gave me a lifetime of rich sweet memories to last the remainder of my life.
This post may not go down well, if that's the case I've nothing more to write.