Hello - i haven't posted for a while but i need some info from my peers here at TP.
Dad is currently in housing with care in the Midlands. I live in London. I've travelled up every weekend for about 5 years now and it is exhausting. I looked into moving him but hit a brick wall of stuff i won’t go into. However, two things have happened: his dementia has reached a stage where the HWC say they can no longer meet his needs (i told them this a while ago but no one listened) and the HWC home itself is going to close down next year.
the Midlands social services say that they would only fund dad’s place in dementia care in London to the same value as they would in London - around £400 (is that per week - i forgot to ask, but it seems quite low for a monthly figure) and i would have to make up any difference.
Now i can manage £200 a week on top of that but no more (bang goes my idea of saving for a deposit on a house). So what i want to know is how much do dementia care homes in London cost? i’ve no idea.
His Midlands social worker suggested dad move in with me temporarily - this is just the most ridiculous suggestion ever! I live in a tiny studio flat and it would be dangerous for him. And apart from that, I would have to give up work to look after him.
Is there anything i can do to get him moved near me? I just want to improve his quality of life by being closer so that he can get out more and have the care he needs.
Dad is currently in housing with care in the Midlands. I live in London. I've travelled up every weekend for about 5 years now and it is exhausting. I looked into moving him but hit a brick wall of stuff i won’t go into. However, two things have happened: his dementia has reached a stage where the HWC say they can no longer meet his needs (i told them this a while ago but no one listened) and the HWC home itself is going to close down next year.
the Midlands social services say that they would only fund dad’s place in dementia care in London to the same value as they would in London - around £400 (is that per week - i forgot to ask, but it seems quite low for a monthly figure) and i would have to make up any difference.
Now i can manage £200 a week on top of that but no more (bang goes my idea of saving for a deposit on a house). So what i want to know is how much do dementia care homes in London cost? i’ve no idea.
His Midlands social worker suggested dad move in with me temporarily - this is just the most ridiculous suggestion ever! I live in a tiny studio flat and it would be dangerous for him. And apart from that, I would have to give up work to look after him.
Is there anything i can do to get him moved near me? I just want to improve his quality of life by being closer so that he can get out more and have the care he needs.