My mum is 83 and has vascular dementia and I have juggled her care at home, until she had a fall and was admitted to hospital. Home care was to be increased as her needs had increased, I do not live with her but go every night after work and days at weekends. A chest xray and then a scan and found terminal lung cancer that is in both lungs. I have looked after her as well as gone to work for the past 10 years, recently her behaviour became more erratic. We just about coped with two calls from carers day and night to administer medication for diabetes and after stroke care. She refused all other help, she was forgetting to eat, drink and was having accidents going to the toilet, so more care had recently been agreed. She has been fast tracked and a nursing home are coming to assess her this Monday. They cannot say exactly how long she has in this world but this may be as little as 12 weeks. She has a fractured arm is very weak, needs help dressing, washing and is wheeled to the toilet. Her home has stairs and steps. She is still eating, but sleeping a lot and forgetful of day and time. She thinks relatives long gone are still here, sometimes forgets where she is and then is adamant she wants to go home. I want her to be safe cared for and loved to the last no matter how hard, she wants to come home, in my heart I want her to have that, sometimes she is so coherent other days not, can we manage at home Can anyone give me advice, I feel in a very dark place, love her so much and want to do the best for her.