Yes, you must rest and do whatever the surgeon says. If you do too much and this leads to a slower recovery this will not be good for either you or Bridget. My husband’s surgeon told him that people are often impatient and start going back into the office or exercising too soon and are then surprised that this causes problems with the hernia repair.
Look after yourself and be patient.
Hello Peter, I found when I had my hernia repair that days 2 & 3 were the most uncomfortable, after that it got a little easier each day. Getting in and out of bed or a chair were the most difficult. Although hernia repairs are considered a simple routine procedure by the medics you have to remember that you have had abdominal surgery and it does take time to heal. Best wishes Andy.You know what, I’m in so much pain after this operation that in many ways it’s all I can think about, never mind worrying about Bridget. How priorities change! The only place I’m really comfortable is lying in bed so it looks like that’s where I’ll be for the remainder of the day. At least this phone keeps me in touch with the world. Just waiting for the pain killers to kick in?
Thanks once again for all your kind messages. Means a lot❤️
Thanks @Andy54. A little hernia support group!?Hello Peter, I found when I had my hernia repair that days 2 & 3 were the most uncomfortable, after that it got a little easier each day. Getting in and out of bed or a chair were the most difficult. Although hernia repairs are considered a simple routine procedure by the medics you have to remember that you have had abdominal surgery and it does take time to heal. Best wishes Andy.
Hello @Stacey sue. One thing I do know is that Bridget is better off at the home than back here with me and me trying to do everything. In a perfect world she would be compliant, I would cope marvellously and everything would fall into place.I like you find it so very hard to come to terms with, my husband has deteriorated and I find myself questioning whether I can have him home.I just want him home,although he isn’t there, just physically. What an awfull disease. Your not alone Peter. x
Thank you so much @Violet Jane. Sometimes I think I’m just so weak and unable to stand up to this battle with grief and longing. But for the past 30 odd years we’ve had each other for comfort and support and it’s not easy to face all this on my own. I know you know all this and it’s got be expected but the daily grind of getting through the day, just getting up, just bothering to eat, well it’s wearing and tiring.You have not abandoned Bridget. Isolation and recuperation from your operation were forced on you. If you are used to seeing Bridget almost every day then it might be a shock seeing her after a couple of weeks with almost fresh eyes. I think that it’s natural to have a mixture of feelings when you visit someone in the later stages of dementia. You want to / need to see him/her and s/he is still your spouse / parent / aunt / uncle / grandparent etc but, at the same time, it’s horrifying to see how diminished s/he has become.
If Bridget took a sudden downturn I’m sure that the care home would let you know.
Concentrate on your recovery. I hope that the pain of the operation is easing now.