@Dutchman, glad the visit with Bridget 's brother went well, if nothing else he has now seen what you see which I think is important. None of Deb's family have seen her for nearly two years also, in some cases 3 or 4 years, they will remember a very different Deb to the one that I now know. My sister went with me to visit last week, it was probably around six months since she last saw Deb and she was shocked by the change in that time. I did feel a sense of relief after that visit, it was as though someone else seeing and knowing the reality justified my decisions on the care home - silly I know but it did seem to help.
Andy
Andy