We’ve talked a lot about this merry go round of emotions associated with dementia.
I more or less believe most of the time that by only go to see my wife every other day, and then only for an hour after getting changed for bed, that I’m being lazy and selfish.
Perhaps I should stay longer, go every day, increase the visits, but I find it emotionally too much . But is that weak and lame , should I be stronger ?
when I don’t go I worry about her, how she is, is she unhappy, within her dementia muddled mind does she miss me? So I can’t escape any unhappy feelings, maybe for a short while I can.
I’m always told I should look after myself as well but even that seems an act of selfishness sometimes.
suppose I’m wrong and I am selfish??
bless you all , Peter (Dutchman)