Point well made Northumbrian. I hope I never upset anyone with my post it’s just that sometimes I just feel (having spoken to some other men in same situation) that us as a gender can sometimes keep out thoughts guarded and everyone is so compassionate on the forum that it’s worth searching for that one kind comment that can make the difference to your day.Well, I'm a man and I've never been afraid to unload when necessary. It isn't always clear if posters are male or female, some may not want to say, others may use a different gender/persona to preserve their privacy. There appear to be many more females than males on DTP and there must be all sorts of reasons for that. But there is also a solid core of male contributors who sometimes seek solace for their own issues or (just as importantly) try to help others by giving advice based on their own experience.