I’m so sorry that you’ve lost your husband @CAL Y. I cannot begin to imagine what heartache you’re going through.“Not everyone is like you dad” I understand that and wouldn’t have expected my husbands daughters to have done personal care in that way because I know he would have been mortified at the idea.
However in his last two weeks , when the carers were not here, myself and my sister and brother in law did wash and change him and everything else he needed.
Bottom wiping seems to come naturally when you truly love someone as you do Bridget.
Try not to think too badly of others. The love that you have and I had for my lovely husband is very special.
I read all your posts and I really wish for you to find peace with your situation.
It really is the only way to cope with life. And yes I agree about the weekends.
My husband died only 10 days ago and I have just had the worse weekend of my life but today I’m a lot better and coping with things again.xx