Hi
My mother with mod dementia is in a CH. Only been there 4 weeks, went from hospital after yet another fall. I looked after her at her home for 6 months with the help of 2 carers before it was decided she needed 24hr care.
She was able to walk with a frame when she went into CH but now cannot walk and only just weight bear. She was incontinent of urine but is now doubly incontinent.
She thinks she is in a hospital and has stopped asking to go home.
She recognises a few immediate family.
The staff in CH are all lovely and I have no concerns there.
But she has now stopped eating and virtually stopped drinking. They are concerned and asked me if I could help. She is refusing food, calorie drinks etc, not even trying it. Yesterday was one of her more lucid days. When I questioned her about this she said that it was the only way she had of dying. She knew she would never go home and wanted to die quietly.
Although I accept she maybe depressed I have to agree with her, her quality of life is poor. Can she be force fed or can her wishes be accepted.
Her gp has already agreed to DNR with her some months ago.
Advice please.
My mother with mod dementia is in a CH. Only been there 4 weeks, went from hospital after yet another fall. I looked after her at her home for 6 months with the help of 2 carers before it was decided she needed 24hr care.
She was able to walk with a frame when she went into CH but now cannot walk and only just weight bear. She was incontinent of urine but is now doubly incontinent.
She thinks she is in a hospital and has stopped asking to go home.
She recognises a few immediate family.
The staff in CH are all lovely and I have no concerns there.
But she has now stopped eating and virtually stopped drinking. They are concerned and asked me if I could help. She is refusing food, calorie drinks etc, not even trying it. Yesterday was one of her more lucid days. When I questioned her about this she said that it was the only way she had of dying. She knew she would never go home and wanted to die quietly.
Although I accept she maybe depressed I have to agree with her, her quality of life is poor. Can she be force fed or can her wishes be accepted.
Her gp has already agreed to DNR with her some months ago.
Advice please.