Mum ended up being in hospital for 7 weeks and has now been in intermediate care for 2 weeks. The time is coming that we need to decide whether mum is going home or into care.
The physios are working with her daily to get her back on her feet and she is doing well however she is having bad nights shouting and hallucinating and they are concerned about her being on her own during the night in case anything happens and she is on her own.
They are happy that she would be safe during the day with the carers but are very worried about the nights.
We have thought to pay someone to stay with her overnight but are we pushing to get her home for the wrong reasons?
Of cause we want her home- she has a lovely little flat and 2 cats that miss her terribly, but we know deep down we have to do what is safest for mum and that may be care.
There are a few good homes just minutes from where me and my sister live, so we would be able to spend more quality time with her instead of being a carer to her.
I know the decision may not end up being ours and we are obviously going to ask mum how she feels- she can chat quite well at the moment- but what a horrible decision to have to make and it's so hard.
Any advise would be very welcome
The physios are working with her daily to get her back on her feet and she is doing well however she is having bad nights shouting and hallucinating and they are concerned about her being on her own during the night in case anything happens and she is on her own.
They are happy that she would be safe during the day with the carers but are very worried about the nights.
We have thought to pay someone to stay with her overnight but are we pushing to get her home for the wrong reasons?
Of cause we want her home- she has a lovely little flat and 2 cats that miss her terribly, but we know deep down we have to do what is safest for mum and that may be care.
There are a few good homes just minutes from where me and my sister live, so we would be able to spend more quality time with her instead of being a carer to her.
I know the decision may not end up being ours and we are obviously going to ask mum how she feels- she can chat quite well at the moment- but what a horrible decision to have to make and it's so hard.
Any advise would be very welcome