My mum has recently been diagnosed. When I think I'm coming to terms with it all it hits me all over again. It's a vicious cycle of shock sadness anger depression denial. How do you cope with this? Losing the mum I knew. I feel robbed of many precious years. Life can be unfair and cruel but you just have to carry on. I hear girls of my age moaning about trivial things about their mums that really annoys me. I find it hard to empathise with any of my friends boy "problems". It sounds selfish but this nightmare is taking over. I wish I could help my mum and my dad.