Well after a great deal of whispered talks with social workers and can my oh has now attended two sessions at a day centre...she went without any trouble but on her visit there she was not very communitive and with staff and other patients..however on the second occasion I was informed that she had joined in one or two activities.I feel very guilty when she leaves the house on the morning but it is heaven to have a few "me hours" on her return home she says nothing about her day out which is a surprise as I expected to really get annoyed....I suppose this is telling me that she doesn't know what is happening and again it makes me feel very guilty and frightened because I realise that I am going to lose her sooner than I expected but I do realise it will be the best for her