My husband has been going once a week for day care for 6 weeks. He has been being taken by his Alzheimers Support befriender, and at first liked it, then said it was awful and they were all morons and he was not going again. I pick him up, but had not dared try to take him, as he will do anything Philip suggests, and disagree with anything I suggest. However, Alz Support are not a taxi service, and urged me to at least try. So, today I just said things like 'Are you ready to go now?' without saying where we were going, and he got into the car. En route, he asked where we were going, and when I said because it was Tuesday we were going to Anzac House, and he was perfectly happy! It does seem dreadful having to scheme and trick one's husband - it makes a mockery of the relationship that once was. But oh how I enjoy my day off.