Day 10 of no food or fluids ..

Flake

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Sending you courage and strength.

Its the hardest thing ever to watch and wait and knowing there is nothing you can do. My Mum has recently passed after not eating and drinking for what seemed an eternity and I regret I was not with her although I did say goodbye and told her to rest and that we would all be ok. She spoke back to me saying she needed to sleep and rest and that she loved me. She then went to sleep. I looked back and she was so peaceful.

Thinking of you xxx
 

Confused12

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Thanks every one for your kind words ️xxx
My Mum is now on Day 19 of no food or fluids, mouthcare only. Her breathing has been through even differnt stage. She is weak, her face almost unrecognisable and ive got to say, this is one of the worst things I've have ever seen. I can't believe that she is still here, neither can the nurses/carers. I'm ️hoping this will be over soon. x
 

Chemmy

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So sorry to hear that you are still struggling through this stage. Hoping she finds peace very soon.

Best wishes.
 

Raggedrobin

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Confused, I just want to say I am with you in your awful struggle with this. i hope she is soon at peace. Kaytee I am sorry for your loss.

To everyone who has been through this and for those of us who have yet to reach the end, I can think of nothing to say but that I send love and strength. This is a time of great sadness for all of us. Xxx
 

cragmaid

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Please give yourself a break every now and then, Go for a cup of coffee, a walk round the block. Go talk to the cleaners or just stand in the sun and breathe in the air.
I know what it is like, you sit and breathe with her and you hold your breath each time she stops. You say, under your breath...."Please Go".... you say out loud "You can go Mum" and you say to each other " How on earth is she doing it?" and still you watch and wait...
Waiting here with you.....Love Maureen.x.x
 

Murper1

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Such a deeply sad and loving conversation, and it has made me feel very emotional. But it is also informative for so many of us wondering what to expect and how to cope with the future inevitable final weeks or days. My heart goes out to you Confused, Kaytee and Flake and everyone going through this right now.
 

kaytee23

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Thank you everyone for your kind messages of condolences and thoughts. They have meant a lot xx

I came back to check on how you were doing confused12 and I couldn't believe it when I read your update... I really feel for you and know how you must be feeling and all the emotions you're going through right now...All I can do is say I'm thinking of you and I really hope you both have release soon xx

Maureen​, you summed it up perfectly how it is..Flake, sharonk43 and canary sorry for your losses... It's so hard after they've gone isn't it? I hope you're all holding up OK xxx
 

Confused12

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Hello everyone, sorry for the delay on updating this thread. I am overwhelmed by your support and kind words. Thankyou for thinking of me.

My Mum passed away yesterday tea time, day 19 of no food or liquid. One breath and she was gone, peacefully as she had been all of the days.

I have never seen anything like these 19 days but she defied Dementia by going when she wanted to.

I'll be checking to see how you all are doing, Thankyou so much for being there for me at my difficult time xx
 

Shedrech

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hello Confused12
sad news - thank you for letting us know
I'm glad your mum left this world peacefully with you by her side
be kind and gentle to yourself
 

canary

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Im so sorry, confused.
Its a difficult time - bittersweet, both glad that they have gone, yet devastated at the same time. There will be lots to do, so be gentle with yourself.
 

kaytee23

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Oh I'm so sorry for the loss of your mum, yet so relieved for you both that your suffering has finally come to an end. Sending a big hug xx
 

cragmaid

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Just as we hoped, here and gone in peace, she breathed her last. You are sad and glad, I know. Her suffering has ceased and your pain has intensified. You have done a wonderful thing and I send my sincere condolences to you and all your family.
Thinking of you especially at this sad time.....Maureen.x.x.
 

kaytee23

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P.S. As I was looking for poems online today for my mum's eulogy, I came across this one which I think is lovely... I thought I'd share here for you confused 12 and to all lost loved ones x

Weep Not For Me

By an Unknown Author

Weep not for me though I have gone
Into that gentle night
Grieve if you will, but not for long
Upon my soul’s sweet fight

I am at peace, my soul’s at rest
There is no need for tears
For with your love I was so blessed
For all those many years

There is no pain, I suffer not
The fear is now all gone
Put now these things out of your thoughts
In your memory I live on

Remember not my fight for breath
Remember not the strife
Please do not dwell upon my death
But celebrate my life
 

Confused12

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You are all such amazing and kind people taking the time to support me though this. Talking point really does help when you are feeling lost. Sending my love and thanks back to you all x
 

Jbob

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P.S. As I was looking for poems online today for my mum's eulogy, I came across this one which I think is lovely... I thought I'd share here for you confused 12 and to all lost loved ones x

Weep Not For Me

By an Unknown Author

Weep not for me though I have gone
Into that gentle night
Grieve if you will, but not for long
Upon my soul’s sweet fight

I am at peace, my soul’s at rest
There is no need for tears
For with your love I was so blessed
For all those many years

There is no pain, I suffer not
The fear is now all gone
Put now these things out of your thoughts
In your memory I live on

Remember not my fight for breath
Remember not the strife
Please do not dwell upon my death
But celebrate my life

Thank you Kaytee23 for sharing this. To confused12 and everyone else I am sorry for your loses.
I am waiting for my Dad to pass. I agree is one of the worst things to see. I am finding it hard to know that he cannot have any food or fluids due to swallowing problems and risk of choking/aspirating. I feel like hexwants a drink but all we can offer is mouthcare. He is very thin has been for months. I'm struggling with thinking we are killing him by with holding food and fluid as it's not necessarily his choice.
I hope he goes soon as it is horrible to see and is at peace from this cruel disease.
Take care everyone x