I am so sorry for your loss, time to find a little peace of your own now, take care of yourself xx
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Day 10 of no food or fluids ..
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Thankyou everyone ️xxx
Jbob, im sorry to hear of your ongoing situation, it's similar to the one my mum has been through. I was told that the patient/resident won't feel thirsty or in need of a drink. You're not killing him off, it's end stage dementia and it is horrible. When my mum was diagnosed with frontal temporal dementia, I googled the hell out of it. From having my grandad, mums dad, having vascular dementia and dying of pneumonia after choking on food, I knew the common theme was not swallowing or choking in dementia sufferers and I knew it's how my mums life would end if there wasn't any other health issues.
My mum slept, almost constantly for 19 days. Her breathing kept changing then going back to normal. All I can say, is what you probably know. Talk, don't leave anything unsaid, play music, whatever you want to do. all you can do is your best xxx
Jbob, im sorry to hear of your ongoing situation, it's similar to the one my mum has been through. I was told that the patient/resident won't feel thirsty or in need of a drink. You're not killing him off, it's end stage dementia and it is horrible. When my mum was diagnosed with frontal temporal dementia, I googled the hell out of it. From having my grandad, mums dad, having vascular dementia and dying of pneumonia after choking on food, I knew the common theme was not swallowing or choking in dementia sufferers and I knew it's how my mums life would end if there wasn't any other health issues.
My mum slept, almost constantly for 19 days. Her breathing kept changing then going back to normal. All I can say, is what you probably know. Talk, don't leave anything unsaid, play music, whatever you want to do. all you can do is your best xxx
Thank you confused12 its so hard to watch not helped by family members not happy with the situation (like we are??) I hope you are okay? He's hanging on I dont know how he stopped eating over 2 weeks ago and fluids were stopped 6 days ago. He's only 64 though maybe his body isn't ready but his brain is? Take care everyone x
I just love this, and send my heartfelt sympathies to you all who are suffering the loss of your loved ones, xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Weep Not For Me
By an Unknown Author
Weep not for me though I have gone
Into that gentle night
Grieve if you will, but not for long
Upon my soul’s sweet fight
I am at peace, my soul’s at rest
There is no need for tears
For with your love I was so blessed
For all those many years
There is no pain, I suffer not
The fear is now all gone
Put now these things out of your thoughts
In your memory I live on
Remember not my fight for breath
Remember not the strife
Please do not dwell upon my death
But celebrate my life
By an Unknown Author
Weep not for me though I have gone
Into that gentle night
Grieve if you will, but not for long
Upon my soul’s sweet fight
I am at peace, my soul’s at rest
There is no need for tears
For with your love I was so blessed
For all those many years
There is no pain, I suffer not
The fear is now all gone
Put now these things out of your thoughts
In your memory I live on
Remember not my fight for breath
Remember not the strife
Please do not dwell upon my death
But celebrate my life
It is indeed a wonderful poem.
I am having exactly the same worries
Poor Mum is 91. She stopped eating real foods a week ago and is surviving on 1 to 2 cups of liquid a day and a cup of jelly. Suddenly, Mum started sleeping through the night. Before no medication could keep her asleep. Dad and I were up so much at night with her. Now she can't even push to do a bowel movement or stand. It is distressing and cruel . I , also, wish Mum could find some peace and have some dignity
Poor Mum is 91. She stopped eating real foods a week ago and is surviving on 1 to 2 cups of liquid a day and a cup of jelly. Suddenly, Mum started sleeping through the night. Before no medication could keep her asleep. Dad and I were up so much at night with her. Now she can't even push to do a bowel movement or stand. It is distressing and cruel . I , also, wish Mum could find some peace and have some dignity
My mom is only taking sips of soup
I can relate to you at this difficult time. I cared for Mom for 13 years before she entered hospice in a skilled nursing facility. She has almost completely stopped eating, but somehow lingers on. Perhaps it will be of help to you to know that I too am experiencing anxiety about the timing of her death. I realize that God is in control of her timeline, but can barely stand the waiting. My mother was my best friend and I know with certainly that she would not want to live for long in her current state.
I can relate to you at this difficult time. I cared for Mom for 13 years before she entered hospice in a skilled nursing facility. She has almost completely stopped eating, but somehow lingers on. Perhaps it will be of help to you to know that I too am experiencing anxiety about the timing of her death. I realize that God is in control of her timeline, but can barely stand the waiting. My mother was my best friend and I know with certainly that she would not want to live for long in her current state.
