dark days


Registered User
Jan 6, 2008
Hello I have just joined out of despair. My mum has was diagnosed in 2003 and until recently was at home cared for my my dad. She has now been sectioned for 28 days as her behaviour became agressive. she seems to have gone down hill very quickly. My sister and i do not recognise our once loving mum. she is very abusive particularly towards me its so upsetting. What happens next? Sue:(


Registered User
Sep 10, 2005
Hello Sue

Welcome to TP - you will find much support here.

I am sorry to hear about your mum's deterioration and her being sectioned. I can't offer any advice in terms of what happens next as my mum isn't as far advanced as yours, but there are others on here will be able to give an insight into their experiences.

Take care and do post again.


Registered User
Jul 7, 2007
Hello Sue & welcome to TP,

I don't have any experience of aggression and sectioning (my Mum has always been on the passive side apart from getting her out of bed) but there are quite a few others who will come along later and offer their experiences and insights - these will be a great help to you.

I think that the sectioning will be to enable the docs to sort out medication etc - and from the experiences of others this can take quite some time. But really - to anwer your question re what happens next - the answer is "who knows" - your Mum may follow some kind of pattern but probably not - everyone's dementia is different.

Sorry I can't help here but if you read thro' others threads I'm sure you'll gain some good knowledge - and people will be along soon with more experience.

In the meantime why not contact your local branch of Alzheimers society and also pick out some of the fact sheets on this site - they cover all sorts of things.

Keep strong - its awful I know to watch how AZ develops - but you will get tons of support from here.


Grannie G

Volunteer Moderator
Apr 3, 2006
Hello Sue, welcome to TP.

Your mother was sectioned because she was at risk to herself and her family and unable to control her behaviour. I have never experienced sectioning but know from others how upsetting it is.

The fact that you and your sister do not recognize the mother you knew speaks for itself.

I do hope the 28 day Section will give the medics time to help your mother, and that she will then be well enough to return home.

Love xx

blue sea

Registered User
Aug 24, 2005
Hello Sue
As others have said, each case of dementia is different. However it might help to know that my father was sectioned in similar circumstances and that they did manage to change his medication so that he became calmer. It can take some time as much of it is trial and error. Sometimes the person also needs a higher level of staff care ratio. The progression of the dementia can result in the person becoming aggressive because they are frightened, as they cannot understand why people are trying to wash them, change their clothes etc. I found my father was better when moved to the assessment unit where there were more staff to look after him and who could carry out care interventions to fit in with his mood. In a normal care home the staff are often rushed and have to work to a routine. Each case is individual and the sectioning allows for a proper assessment to take place. Make sure you are kept fully informed about what is happening. We found the allocation of a community psychiatric nurse (CPN) to be very helpful in this. Ask for an appointment to meet the consultant psychiatrist and talk through the planned medication and care. It may well be that your mum will become calmer and be able to return to her care home. If this isn't the case then the national health service has a responsibility to offer care suited to her needs, which could be in a specialist home with a higher staff ratio. Initially I felt very upset by the sectioning decision, but in the end it was in my father's best interests as I felt he received better care. You ahould also be aware that if the sectioning is extended to a longer term arrangement, all care costs are covered by the national health. I know that's a side issue, but it's something you should be given information on. I think in most cases the medics are able to adjust medication to reduce or remove the aggression, so I hope this is so for your mum.
Blue sea


Registered User
Sep 27, 2006
From your post I think she is currently on a section 2 which after 28 days may be changed to a section 3. My husband went from a section 2 to a section 3. Although it did not suit myself or my husband, sectioning does bring some benefits and safeguards. The benefit of further fully funded care has already been mentioned but there are other benefits such as guaranteed reviews of medication by an independant doctor and a formal judicial type review after 6 months detention.

I hope that your mum's medication can give both her and yourselves some relief. There is a much higher ratio of staff to patients on such wards and all the staff have experience of dealing with patients who can show very disturvbed behaviour. My love to you in this most distressing time for you all. xx TinaT


Registered User
Aug 9, 2005
Dear Sue,
You and your sister and family are in my thoughts as you cope with this very depressing and distressing phase of the illness. I cannot speak from experience on this subject, but many on TP can. You will get good advice here and lots of caring support.

Do take care of yourself - you will need to keep up your strength to keep coping.
Caring thoughts winging their way to you.