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Hi Beate,Hi darcy1 and welcome to TP. Does your Mum live at home or in a care home? Why are you scared to visit - is she displaying strange or violent behaviour or is it that you don't know how to talk to her? There are plenty of great fact sheets on this site on all aspects of dementia - might be a good way to start as knowledge can take fear away.
If your Mum is going downhill rapidly it's probably a good idea to visit as soon as you can. You don't want to have regrets as time goes on. Will she still know who you are?Hi Beate,
mum lives at home in suffolk with her 91 yr husband ...they have care, erratic care .my half sister is part of the team.I live in Twickenham ,London.Mum is apparently going down hill rapidly i.e. night care and very scared .as always I'm sure ....a history ! I would just love to talk with someone who understands.
thanks for your response.
Hi craigmaid,Hi Darcy....what scares you most? Is it that she might not know who you are? But you will recognise her. If she was sitting in her chair asleep, you would still know it was her. If she talks about things long ago...it will still be her. If she does not know who you are, you will still see your Mum in front of you. If she cannot recognise you as Darcy, you can still smile at her and chat about the things she is doing with her carers or the things you are doing at home or at work, or the meal you went for last weekend, or how cold it is or how busy the shops are......even if she is not being herself ( as you remember her), she will still be Mum.
Go, as soon as you can and remember for her...... before remembering is all that is left.