Hi All,
What a difference a week makes! Dad moved into a new NH last Friday and he was put into the physically disabled unit due to someone totally messing up. Basically my sister saw the room in the dementia wing and that is where we all thought he was going. That room was allocated to another resident and the wing where dad was had no security. I think the move totally upset him and he was violent to a nurse and another resident. The Manager said he would not be able to stay but they would keep him until an alternative NH was located. This upset the whole family as it is such a difficult job to find a good home as you all know. Fortunately over the weekend and during the week dad calmed down and seems to have settled in. The home then said that the person who got the bed in the dementia wing could swop (everyone agreeing) and this has now happened. The move upstairs seems to have gone well. My initial instincts were to get him out of there because they didn't seem able to cope but my sister visited and said we should give it a try as what was the alternative? Maybe I am being cynical but I think the pound signs started popping up when they thought they might lose a resident and although they have managed to sort the situation out I just remember them saying that they couldn't deal with the sort of behaviour that dad exhibits sometimes even in the dementia wing. So what has changed? It has left me feeling uneasy and I hope I am wrong. My sister who initially viewed the room was not happy being told by the person who showed her around "that he did not remember doing so". I can't believe he would forget and so am left with the knowledge that a senior member of staff has lied to cover his error. A small lie perhaps but not a good start. Anyway all quiet on the western front as dad used to say and a large breath out for us all. Now all we have to do is get him new dentures (lost last set at hospital) new hearing aids (always fiddling with them) find the lost watch (gone within 3 days of being in new home! Oh, and try and dissuade dad from getting his bottom teeth pulled out! Large swerve on that one I think and hope that the family are up to getting round it.
Bon weekend to all
TrichX
What a difference a week makes! Dad moved into a new NH last Friday and he was put into the physically disabled unit due to someone totally messing up. Basically my sister saw the room in the dementia wing and that is where we all thought he was going. That room was allocated to another resident and the wing where dad was had no security. I think the move totally upset him and he was violent to a nurse and another resident. The Manager said he would not be able to stay but they would keep him until an alternative NH was located. This upset the whole family as it is such a difficult job to find a good home as you all know. Fortunately over the weekend and during the week dad calmed down and seems to have settled in. The home then said that the person who got the bed in the dementia wing could swop (everyone agreeing) and this has now happened. The move upstairs seems to have gone well. My initial instincts were to get him out of there because they didn't seem able to cope but my sister visited and said we should give it a try as what was the alternative? Maybe I am being cynical but I think the pound signs started popping up when they thought they might lose a resident and although they have managed to sort the situation out I just remember them saying that they couldn't deal with the sort of behaviour that dad exhibits sometimes even in the dementia wing. So what has changed? It has left me feeling uneasy and I hope I am wrong. My sister who initially viewed the room was not happy being told by the person who showed her around "that he did not remember doing so". I can't believe he would forget and so am left with the knowledge that a senior member of staff has lied to cover his error. A small lie perhaps but not a good start. Anyway all quiet on the western front as dad used to say and a large breath out for us all. Now all we have to do is get him new dentures (lost last set at hospital) new hearing aids (always fiddling with them) find the lost watch (gone within 3 days of being in new home! Oh, and try and dissuade dad from getting his bottom teeth pulled out! Large swerve on that one I think and hope that the family are up to getting round it.
Bon weekend to all
TrichX