It has come to light in recent weeks that my dad’s neighbour has been going into my dad’s house and taking food out of the freezer, using his dryer and making calls on his telephone. I have involved the police, but they say there is little they can do as dad is letting this man in and he will probably say my dad is giving him permission to do these things.
As my dad has carers visiting 4 x per day, a district nurse 2 x per week and a gardener 1 x fortnight, he has got used to letting pretty much whoever just walk into the house and assumes he must know people if they act like they know him, hence how this neighbour has wormed his way in.
The reason for this post is that the police this morning suggested that the only way forward is to move my dad to sheltered accommodation. Although the police can talk to this neighbour, they think that there will always be people around who’ll take advantage of my dad.
Unfortunately, I don’t think this sheltered accommodation is the answer and would really appreciate others thoughts and advice.
The main problem with moving dad is that he likes go out for walks round the neighbourhood and finds his way home largely only because he has lived in the same area for 22 years and recognises it. They will not be able to stop him going for a wander in sheltered accommodation and I foresee dad going on walks every day, getting lost and the police picking him up to take him back. Even worse, I think he would go back to his current house and try to break in convinced it was still his home!
Apart from letting strangers into his house, dad doesn’t have many problems that yet affect his ability to live fairly independently – he’s only 70 & his mobility is good, he eats well as long as the carer’s prompt him. The only other real problem is he doesn’t wash, shower, change clothes often enough, but that is not something sheltered housing will help with. I already know from a short spell in a nursing home last summer that he is not one to enjoy the sociable side of being around people – he’s lived alone for the best part of 30 years and likes to be left alone. He didn’t take kindly to being in a nursing home and spent all day everyday trying to break out. And sometimes succeeding!
Is there an answer? I wonder about getting CCTV, but I’ve received conflicting advice off the police. There is the school of thought that it’d prove nothing as my dad would be shown to be giving permission to people to take his stuff, but then I was told it would be a good idea..it will surely put people off taking advantage of him? I would dearly like my dad to stay at home as long as he can as he’s happiest there and am looking for ways to keep him there and keep him safe.
For the record, social services had no helpful suggestions. What a shock
As my dad has carers visiting 4 x per day, a district nurse 2 x per week and a gardener 1 x fortnight, he has got used to letting pretty much whoever just walk into the house and assumes he must know people if they act like they know him, hence how this neighbour has wormed his way in.
The reason for this post is that the police this morning suggested that the only way forward is to move my dad to sheltered accommodation. Although the police can talk to this neighbour, they think that there will always be people around who’ll take advantage of my dad.
Unfortunately, I don’t think this sheltered accommodation is the answer and would really appreciate others thoughts and advice.
The main problem with moving dad is that he likes go out for walks round the neighbourhood and finds his way home largely only because he has lived in the same area for 22 years and recognises it. They will not be able to stop him going for a wander in sheltered accommodation and I foresee dad going on walks every day, getting lost and the police picking him up to take him back. Even worse, I think he would go back to his current house and try to break in convinced it was still his home!
Apart from letting strangers into his house, dad doesn’t have many problems that yet affect his ability to live fairly independently – he’s only 70 & his mobility is good, he eats well as long as the carer’s prompt him. The only other real problem is he doesn’t wash, shower, change clothes often enough, but that is not something sheltered housing will help with. I already know from a short spell in a nursing home last summer that he is not one to enjoy the sociable side of being around people – he’s lived alone for the best part of 30 years and likes to be left alone. He didn’t take kindly to being in a nursing home and spent all day everyday trying to break out. And sometimes succeeding!
Is there an answer? I wonder about getting CCTV, but I’ve received conflicting advice off the police. There is the school of thought that it’d prove nothing as my dad would be shown to be giving permission to people to take his stuff, but then I was told it would be a good idea..it will surely put people off taking advantage of him? I would dearly like my dad to stay at home as long as he can as he’s happiest there and am looking for ways to keep him there and keep him safe.
For the record, social services had no helpful suggestions. What a shock